With young kids, the start of every school year is bittersweet. On the one hand, I’m about ready for some peace and quiet, but on the other, I love spending time with them. So the beginning of this year was no different. I almost cried seeing them board the bus to school. You could tell they were excited too if not a little nervous. Throughout the day I imagined all the different experiences they would be having. I questioned whether they would find their classroom or meet new friends. When 4 o’clock came around, I anxiously made my way to the bus stop.
Throughout the day I imagined all the different experiences they would be having. I questioned whether they would find their classrooms ok or meet new friends. When 4 o’clock came around, I anxiously made my way to the bus stop. I had a million questions and couldn’t wait to ask them all. Once they got off the bus I asked enthusiastically , “How was your first day??”. “Good” they replied casually. Ugh! Conversation over.
It’s a tiny bit frustrating and I’m almost positive most parents can relate. All summer they can’t leave you alone for a second with questions and now? Nothing.
I recently came across a blog post titled 25 Ways To Ask Your Kids “So How Was School Today?” (Without Asking “So How Was School Today?”). Apparently, the author felt the pain of every other engaged parent out there and came up with a list of better questions to ask. I had to share.
1. What was the best thing that happened at school today? (What was the worst thing that happened at school today?)
2. Tell me something that made you laugh today.
3. If you could choose, who would you like to sit by in class? (Who would you NOT want to sit by in class? Why?)
4. Where is the coolest place at the school?
5. Tell me a weird word that you heard today. (Or something weird that someone said.)
6. If I called your teacher tonight, what would she tell me about you?
7. How did you help somebody today?
8. How did somebody help you today?
9. Tell me one thing that you learned today.
10. When were you the happiest today?
11. When were you bored today?
12. If an alien spaceship came to your class and beamed someone up, who would you want them to take?
13. Who would you like to play with at recess that you’ve never played with before?
14. Tell me something good that happened today.
15. What word did your teacher say most today?
16. What do you think you should do/learn more of at school?
17. What do you think you should do/learn less of at school?
18. Who in your class do you think you could be nicer to?
19. Where do you play the most at recess?
20. Who is the funniest person in your class? Why is he/she so funny?
21. What was your favorite part of lunch?
22. If you got to be the teacher tomorrow, what would you do?
23. Is there anyone in your class who needs a time-out?
24. If you could switch seats with anyone in the class, who would you trade with? Why?
25. Tell me about three different times you used your pencil today at school.
So far, the conversation has drastically changed. I find my kids are more likely to open up and share the experiences that they had throughout the day. It’s certainly been a nice change. So what about you? Any questions you ask your children to get them to talk more?